Eng 101

In now a days society there is a huge homofobia going on  imposed on the news, films, books but for example in ottomans before there was a Renaissance the gay marrige was inside the culture it self but with the affects of renaissance and the western culture the people started to see gayness as a sickness because it’s not common between people (or we blieve it’s not common) but we can never know if it’s a natural instinct or a sickness unless we feel it too which is less likely to happen for most of the people.

So to tell we cannot expect the common people understand what’s going on inside the gay couples mind or to feel what they feel. But this doesn’t mean we can stop respecting their ideas. We should respect their sexual preferences, we should expect their will to get maried even if it is against our own gudgment.

When I read the story I kept asking the same question to my self. Are we able to live up to our parents expectations? The thing is the parents spend so much time for us that can we reapy them. This story is aobut the same concept too. A father expects so much form his daughter that he cannot accept the fact that she turned out to be so different. He doesn’t allow her to be a free person who has her own life.

The main question is can we be tottaly different parents compared the one in the story. İs it possible not to expect someting from our children. İs there a way to prevent/kill this expectation. To tell the tuth I would expect a lot from my children so may be I wont be a great parent but I don’t care what others think about it but may be I can be more respectable for my child’s preferences. So the story is realy realistic as I see it.

The story ( A Rose for Emily) turned out to be really different from what I have expected. I expected that it would be a melancholic love story where the partners cannot meet because of a person but really this story was about the conflict of traditions. And it wasn’t really melencholic but instead it was more of a depressing story with dark/negative images.

In the story the Homer Barron dies because Emily cannot cope with the traditions. It is really ironic because I believe that the ridget body of traditions always start and end in the mind so the death of him was never a necessity if Emily could find the will to change her mind. So I ask all of us.

is it really that important what others think even if it results in death?

İsn’t the life of a person worth change your own point of view?